The In Between

It has been quite awhile since we have updated, and it feels like a lot has happened since then, while at the same time it feels like not much has changed.  Over the summer our dossier was accepted and we entered IBESR in Haiti.  We are waiting for our referral and praying for that to happen soon.  We thought that we would have already had it by now, but we had a few bumps along the way.  First, we found that one of the boys was missing a particular seal needed on his birth certificate, and while our agency was amazing at taking care of this, it did take a little time.  Next, Yvenson needed to give his consent for the adoption.  We were given quite a scare when we learned that this meeting did not go well.  At this point our case was at a stand still.  Our agency was recommending we fly to Haiti immediately to work through this.  We decided that first we needed to talk to Yvenson, to find out what happened, and to decide what to do next.  When we talked to him, we found a very scared little boy.  He was brought to an appointment.  He did not know what he was walking into, and he was made to go all alone.  Then the officers who interviewed him were very intimidating and tried to get him to agree to scenarios that are not true, and that legally, would never have to happen.  It scared him to death and he didn't know who or what to believe.  After many phone conversations we were able to alleviate his fears, he has repeated the interview and it went well the second time.  Now that we all can breathe again, we do feel that we are at a point in the process where the boys need to know who we are and begin to feel comfortable with us.  We know, as their parents, that they need us right now so that they can be more comfortable with this process going forward.  So Bernadin and I are very excited to be traveling to Haiti very soon!  We will be in Haiti December 26-30 and would appreciate all of your thoughts and prayers during this time!  We pray that after that we will be going back very soon for our formal bonding trip (15 days) that will follow our referral.  Positives- we are meeting some wonderful people through this adoption journey who have been where we are now or who are going through it too.  We get to meet our boys soon!!!!  Negatives- We are still waiting here missing our boys, and still stuck in this process with an indefinite timeline.  We are very thankful for all your prayers and support and can't wait for the day that we bring our boys home!